Couples Therapy

Couples therapy is a step towards improving your relationship and your life.

A healthy relationship, in which each partner feels loved, understood and supported, is intimately tied to one’s overall life satisfaction. The converse is true as well: an unhappy relationship can impact all areas of one’s life. It adds stress, anger, sadness and distractions. Many couples can recall a happier time and are sometimes confused as to how they have landed in disconnection and pain.

As humans, we learn and change most effectively through experiences that occur in a safe and caring context. My couples work is based upon that premise, which means therapy is an active exchange between you both and me, focused on increasing awareness of the process unfolding between you, combined with developing new ways of engaging in caring for and supporting each other.

Instead of getting stuck rehashing old hurts in the same painful and unproductive manner, we will focus on how you both react to and impact each other along with what is going on under the surface.

My approach also considers the impact of one’s family of origin and past patterns in the unfolding of relationship difficulties. Often, we are unaware of the ways that early and sometimes subversive messages about love, commitment, autonomy and support have shaped our responses to our own needs and to the needs of our loved ones.